Snoring and Relationships. How Snoring Impacts The Baby Boomers
According to The National Sleep Foundation, approximately 90 million American adults snore, and since the probability of snoring increases as we age, it’s a strong likelihood that a good percentage of Baby Boomers are either dealing with snoring now or will at some point in their lifetime. Depending on which end of the spectrum they were born in, baby boomers are now between the ages of 45 years and 66 years, and almost half of all households in the U.S. are headed by Baby Boomers.
True, snoring doesn’t seem like a big deal…that is unless you are the non-snoring partner (the snoree) of a person who emits sounds that resemble a freight train in the middle of your bedroom during the night. For snorees who deal with a lack of sleep or sleep deprivation because of a snoring partner…snoring is a big deal and not a joking matter!
Snoring and intimacy don’t make good bed partners. In fact I refer to it in my new ebook book “Is Snoring Destroying Your Relationship While You Sleep?” as the ‘silent relationship killer’. The reason being, not because you can’t hear it, as you definitely can, but rather because it is not acknowledged as a major destroyer of relationships. When snoring becomes a part of a relationship, in order to get a good night’s sleep, one of the partners often begins to sleep in a separate bedroom or go to bed at different times. While this might sound like a good solution, separate bedrooms and different bedtimes takes away those special moments of intimacy, like snuggling, 'cuddle times', talking and laughing when a couple wakes up together or just before they fall asleep at night. And because snoring is often a part of aging as our muscles relax and we put on more weight, baby boomers are most likely dealing with this reality more than the population at large. It is interesting that in a survey conducted by the National Association of Home Builders, builders and architects they predicted that more than 60% of custom built homes would have two master bedrooms by 2015. One of the main reasons given for this is a partner’s snoring keeping the other awake.
However, just because snoring can become more of a reality with age doesn’t mean that there aren’t snoring solutions or snoring remedies available to help stop snoring. In most cases snoring begins as people age because the muscles of the tongue or tissues at the back of the nose and throat area lose some of their tone, become softer and create an obstruction in the airways which creates “noisy breathing” (snoring). Even though this might be the natural progression of the body, throat and tongue exercises can be done to keep the muscles and surrounding tissues toned and less likely to become a problem and create snoring. There are also numerous snoring remedies available that can assist these sagging muscles.
Snoring often negatively impacts relationships by the snoree losing sleep because they have difficulty getting to sleep or staying asleep, when loud snoring is occurring close to their ears. This lack of sleep can turn into sleep deprivation, which has symptoms and health problems of its own and often manifests in frustration, irritation and anger in the snoree. When snoring enters a relationship, the bedroom can often become a breeding ground for anger and resentment which spreads to other areas of the relationship. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The sad thing is that it often is because people are not aware or acknowledging the problem and therefore not seeking solutions to solve the issue.
The key for dealing with snoring in a relationship is communication, to talk about how it is affecting both the snorer and the snoree, get agreement that there is a problem and then explore solutions together. In fact, possible snoring remedies like yoga or a warm beverage before bed can be done together and used to create more intimacy in the relationship instead of losing intimacy because of the snoring. As previously mentioned, snoring is often called the silent killer of relationships because it is not acknowledged or even if acknowledged, it is left to its own devices to wreak havoc in the bedroom and in the life of the people involved. In relationships, when couples acknowledge and confront a problem together, the importance of the relationship takes the forefront instead of letting the problem take the lead.
For Baby Boomers, snoring can definitely be a reality, but it doesn’t have to remain one if it is acknowledged and dealt with. When snoring surfaces, if it is handled by a couple together in a way that finds a mutually beneficial solution that actually builds intimacy, the snoring can be a bit of an inconvenience for a while, but doesn’t have to be a long-term resident in their lives.
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